Getting Over the Fear

They say that when you dream about water, it represents one thing: PROBLEM. There may be a problem in a person’s life right now. The severity of the problem can be seen with regards to the type of water that appears in the dream. Is it deep? Is it clean or dirty? For me, I think the water in my dream represents my fear.

This fear is deeply evident in my favorite book called The Velveteen Rabbit. Yes, I can relate with the little bunny here whose only wish is to be loved. He got the love from the most important people in his life. Yet there were some characters in the book that  made the bunny feel unloved.

There will be times that you will meet people who are brimming with negativity to the core. Name that character, they have it. Bad, crass, evil,  rude, and all other awful descriptions you can think of. Initially, the autopilot response is to be afraid. However, if we let their negative behavior affect us, we will be living in fear for the rest of our lives.

 

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For the last years of my life, Fear is that one thing I am having trouble with when I am about to start something new.  Next week, I am planning to look for employment. My options are in the BPO industry. I am considering working as an email support agent in either in Cubao or here in my hometown Paranaque. I am postponing my Nursing career because I have to renew my license, and update my skills. It’s been a long while since I have practiced my Nursing profession. I worked in a hospital for two years.

I have uncertainties in my head because I am in my late 30s. What if they don’t accept me?  Unfortunately, ageism is one concern that every Filipino person faces here in my country. Right now, I am working out my brains looking for ways to earn passive income that even when I retire, I can still earn and do the things that I love.

Why does fear persist? The reasons people have vary, and it’s all dependent upon their past life experiences related to anger, hate, shame or other life situations that others may deem as unworthy such as poverty, mishandled finances, relationship mistakes, and many more to mention. People have different responses to such crises. Some take the bull by the horns. Some choose to walk away from the problem. Some smile on the outside, but inside their being they are crushed.

Regardless of our circumstances, what is the answer to getting over fear? Simple. We have to acknowledge that we have this fear, yet we are going to do something about it.

I respect people’s coping mechanisms. I can’t force them to overcome it immediately especially if the life experience is a traumatic one. It needs time to be processed.

But the first step to dealing with the fear is to face it squarely. For starters, we need to have a life line. We need our support system for this situation. It can be anyone you trust, a family, a friend, a best friend, your spiritual director.  It’s up to you.  We all have a person who is our lifeline, right? I know it’s not easy, but it’s all about taking baby steps.

It’s not too late to start over. Face your fear. I am leaving you with an inspirational song from Clean Bandit’s Stronger, and Jess Glynne’s Hold My Hand, and Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself

 

Credits:

YouTube Clean Bandit video link Stronger 

YouTube Jess Glynne Hold My Hand

YouTube Jess Glynne Don’t Be So Hard on Yourself 

The Velveteen Rabbit book cover  link

 

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Foreign Books that Inspired Me to Be Better

I have read so many books in my entire life. My ultimate favorites are biographies, classics, history, and mysteries. We have these Pocket Classic condensed books with titles  like Pride and Prejudice,  Heidi,  The Scarlet Letter, The Hound of the Baskervilles and many more.

These books I will mention are those that help to make me who I am today. I am a self -motivated individual who loves to learn new things. Children of today are lucky to be born into a world where there is internet. Just type a few keywords and voila! You get an answer for your homework. Not unlike during my time, especially highschool. You need to research in a library, only to find that the answer your looking for is not in any of the books there.

There’s this subject called Filipino, and we’re suppose to be doing analysis on the literature such as Ibong Adarna (The Adarna Bird), Florante at Laura (Florante and Laura), Noli Me Tangere and El Filibusterismo. I am frustrated because I am unable to find answers. It would have been different if the internet was available during my time.

These books I will include here have made an impact in my life, and in a way, has shaped who I am today. Here they are in no particular order:

Pocket Classics Books:

Heidi

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Swiss Family Robinson, and Robinson Crusoe

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Hound of the Baskervilles

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Agatha Christie books

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Florence Littauer’s books Personality Plus

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Kokology

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Ken Blanchard’s Leadership and the One Minute Manager

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Madeleine L’Engle’s books

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The Velveteen Rabbit

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Haruki Murakami Norwegian Wood

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The Little Prince

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Next time, I will share books that have improved my way of thinking. Lately I am getting interested in learning how to do business. You can’t rely on your full time job to earn money. I still have a long way to go though. I hope you can share with me your favorite books as well. Have a great day!

 

 

Photo credits:

The Little Prince from wikimedia.org

Heidi photo Pocket Classics link

Robinson Crusoe Pocket Classics link

Hound of the Baskervilles Pocket Classics link

Agatha Christie book Funerals are Fatal link

Toast.net Many Waters photo link

Norwegian Wood Haruki Murakami link

polepositionmarketing.com Personality Plus book link 

cdn3.successories.com Leadership and the One Minute Manager link

The Velveteen Rabbit link

Kokology Amazon link

Cover photo from gentlyhewstonefiles.wordpress.com

Exercise 1: The One Thing You’re Good At

This will be a short post, more of a self reflection that you can do while doing your work, or on your way to the market, or going to the post office to send a post card. Here’s one question that you can try to answer:

I WANT YOU TO THINK OF THAT ONE THING THAT YOU’RE GOOD AT AND WRITE IT DOWN WHEN YOU HAVE THE TIME, BEFORE THE SUN SETS TODAY. 

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This is one thing people forget about themselves, that there is always one thing that they’re good. The society has placed so much emphasis on multi tasking that it can drive people to shreds. Literally. Imagine people walking around looking forlorn, dismal, and torn.  Walking tattered clothes that’s it.

I believe that there’s one thing we’re good at. If you can name one, then that’s the spirit. If you can name more, all the more better. But for those who are confused, simply take baby steps when answering this. Take this question into heart, and savor it. Don’t be in a hurry to answer. If you need to go to a quiet place (if that’s what works for you) to reflect, then go. I hope that you find that one thing you’re good at. Crossing my fingers for you. Have a great day!!