Not My Week

Forgive me for my lack of posts,  but I was feeling rather poorly since Saturday last week.  Menstrual cramps were bugging me while I was trying to register for a pilgrimage I will be attending this February. The cramps subsided a bit after two days.

Luck is still not with me because  I was down with fever,  cough and colds next.  I was down and out for the next three days just lying down,  feeling weak.  I had to force feed myself or else I wouldn’t have the strength at all.

While I was sick,  I noticed that I easily burned off all the food I ate. I was hungry after two hours that in the early morning,  I had to get a slice of bread and juice. All the food I ate went into helping the body repair itself.

When I woke up this morning,  it was the worst hunger pang I ever had. Have you tried  waking  up in the morning so famished,  your mouth is dry, and you’re just downright irritable?

And the worst?  Anything I eat tastes bitter.  My dinner tonight consists of oatmeal and pesto bread.  It’s all I can tolerate.  My favorite black rice doesn’t smell right and feels hard on my palate especially when I chew. I am on soft diet galore.  As I am speaking I am having difficulty swallowing because I feel that my throat is sore from too much coughing.  Drinking lots of water to hydrate myself.

What is the point in all this?  Even when things are not going your way, you got to find a way to overcome it.  In my case,  if I don’t force myself to eat, I won’t have any energy whatsoever. I wanted to boost my mood too,  and the the trick to raising those endorphin levels?  Watching cute animal videos, and in my case,  watching cute,  cuddly,  and clingy baby Pandas 🐼🐼🐼🐼sticking to their caretakers like glue.  I felt happy after that.

I have gained a bit of strength that’s why I am blogging.  However don’t want to abuse my body by sleeping late.  I will sleep after I finish this post.
Giving you some more good news before I go, dear readers. I saw my Facebook feed today and I saw a photo of my niece . She met the Duchess of Cornwall Camilla Parker- Bowles and shook hands with her.  My sister on the other hand saw Prince Charles.  They waited for hours for them to arrive.  So lucky!!!! 😍😍😍😍

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I am on the way to recovery till next week. Please keep your fingers crossed.  Have a great day everyone!

Source:

Panda YouTubeVideo link courtesy of iPanda YouTube

Photo courtesy of Cheryl King

Help Jazper Win at the BodyCon

The first time I met Jazper was at an event at PayPal featuring Liz Lanuzo. He was energetic while doing his emcee job. I was not able to talk to him after the event because he was on his way to another event. I decided to follow him on his social media accounts instead. Then I saw on one of his posts show that he is competing for the Gold’s Gym Body Con 3.0.  From that I have learned of his story, on how he lost weight and kept it as it is.

Seriously I was touched with his story because I also had struggles with losing weight. There were personal concerns that happened a long time ago that I resorted to food for comfort. Even if it was for a moment, food made me happy. I have also heard side comments from people putting me down because I gained weight. I was called Dabyana, and snide comments like, “She’s pretty but she’s fat.” In a party of a neighbor, this scrawny and mean looking old woman tells to my face that I was fat.

Anyway, please help Jazper to the top at the Gold’s Gym BodyCon 3.0 competition. I believe he truly deserves to be the winner. Please like his photo on Facebook and share it to many who needs to be inspired to lose weight just like he did. Click on the link here Gold’s Gym Ph BodyCon 3.0 Jazper Tiongson. 
Photo Credit: Gold’s Gym Ph Facebook 

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Remedy for the Broken Heart

It’s not easy to go through life especially if your heart’s got broken. It doesn’t matter how long it has been since that gut wrenching experience. Days. Months. Even in years for some. It gets worse around the holidays where everyone is merrymaking. That’s when the blues become more evident. Laughing on the outside, dying on the inside moments.

 

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There are those whose lives are in autopilot mode after such harrowing event. I got my heart broken when I told some guy at work that I like him, only to find that he doesn’t like me back. It’s a good thing that we started as friends, and ended up as friends even when that happened.

 

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What are you suppose to do when this happens then? I remember Dr. Phil McGraw from Oprah’s show. He has this book called Life Strategies. He says that, “people do what works for them.” In short, people will always try to figure out how to survive a broken heart no matter what. But it takes time.

I am not dictating you as to what you will do when one day this heart breaking moment happens. What I can do is merely suggest. In my opinion, I think we humans all need a template on how to live your life. A guide that one can follow.  Here are some suggestions on how you can mend that broken heart when it happens:

 

ACCEPT THAT IT HAPPENED TO YOU, THEN GRIEVE

I just think that this is the first step towards healing. Accepting the fact that it happened to you.

Yes, you have to process what happened to you. You have all that emotions buried up inside. Let that out. I remember from a movie called Girl, Interrupted that stars Whoopi Goldberg as Nurse Valerie, Winona Ryder who plays Susana, and Angelina Jolie who plays manipulative Lisa. There was a point in that movie when Susana comes up to Nurse Valerie and says to her, ” How am I suppose to recover when I don’t understand my disease?”. Nurse Valerie says to her that she write it down in her diary, and not keep it inside of her.

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I think we can follow Elisabeth Kubler Ross theory on the Five Stages of Grief which includes:

 

DENIAL, ANGER, BARGAINING, DEPRESSION, and ACCEPTANCE. 

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I find the grief.com website helpful. They explained in detail her theory. You may check out the website HERE.
SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU AND WHOM YOU TRUST AND DON’T BE AFRAID TO ASK FOR HELP. REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT ALONE 

Yes, surround yourself with friends and people who matter to you. Find people people whom you trust to talk to. Remember you are loved. We are social beings, and we are meant not to be by ourselves. We need the company of other people. If you have a pet whom you love, you can talk to them. I talk to my pet bunny Earl Grey when I feel sad sometimes.

 

YOU ARE A HUMAN BEING, WONDERFULLY MADE

You are worth it all, in spite of your imperfections, weaknesses.  We are made up of our strengths, talents, flaws, warts, moles and all. Love them all. It’s what makes you you.

THINK OF THE HEARTBREAK AS A LIFE LESSON

Once it happens to you, don’t let the experience stagnate you or pull you down. Move forward. I think the best quote for this is from the movie Finding Nemo wherein Dory says, “Just Keep Swimming, Just Keep Swimming.”
FORGIVE YOURSELF

At this point, you may think things like “What have I done to make this happen?” If you did something that caused it to happen, forgive yourself. We all make mistakes even when we don’t want to. Blaming yourself too much or another won’t help at all heal your broken heart. It’s just going to worsen it.

FORGIVE THE PERSON WHO HURT YOU

There’s this mentality that if you forgive the person who did you wrong, it’s like you’re letting them off the hook. I don’t think so. You’re forgiving the person because when you do so, you have power over your situation. You are the one in charge of your life when you forgive, and not the other way around.

I know it’s not easy to do so when that person really said or did something nasty or horrible that you are left speechless. I know that it will take time, and I am not forcing this on anyone who has underwent terrible circumstances.

However, as much as possible, I will still encourage to forgive. When you forgive, you release yourself from the bondage of that person who has wronged you. It’s easy to fall into the snare of revenge, but all that will bring is more pain to you. THE ONE WHO FORGIVES HAS THE POWER. YOU CHOOSE TO BE A BETTER PERSON. 

 

MOVE ON

This is the hardest part. How do you move on? Here are some things I suggest that will help you process this, and to get on with your life:

  1. Focus on things that matter to you. It can be anything like your hobbies, your job, or causes or anything that interests you. I like the concept of adult coloring books ( or even if it’s a child’s coloring book that you’re using). Even for a monent, it allows you to focus on what needs to be done. You have control on what color you will use.
  2. Remove yourself from situations that remind you of what happened to you. Yes, it’s easy to watch those movies (usually romantic flicks) that have a similar vibe to what you have experienced. If it proves to be a trigger that you become trapped, get away from it. Period.
  3. Sometimes, memories will linger. I know it’s not easy to forget those times you were together, but then again, reality check. You’re no longer together anymore. So get back on track and start to make your life better now.
  4. If you’re someone who loves to write or draw, why not do a creative journal about your life experiences. You can use photography or vlogging as a channel to express this. But who know you might find more ways to move on. It’s all about introspection.
  5. Spend more time with people you love. What are some common things that you and your friends enjoy?
  6. Do a personal inventory yearly and ask yourself, “What are you good at?”. I bet you can find an answer to this every time.

 

I leave you with inspiring words from Elisabeth Kubler Ross. Remember you are worth it all. You are loved.

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Credit (Link url):

Girl Interrupted photo link

Elisabeth Kubler Ross model  

Elisabeth Kubler Ross quote from https://i.pinimg.com/

Unboxing Part 2: Beauty Holiday Giveaway from It’s Apples World

Hello there everyone!  Hope you’re all having a fabulous time. Recently,  I won some fabulous skin care and makeup products from beauty blogger and good friend Apple Caplis. Her Official blog, YouTube,  Facebook,  and Instagram is It’s Apple’s 🍎 World. Please follow her account because she gives honest feedback on products that she uses. 

I got word from Apple that I will be getting it soon,  and it will be arriving via the LBC courier. At last,  the package arrives Monday afternoon. 

Here is a glimpse of the contents after I opened the top part of the box:

Now, I present to you what’s inside:

Coco Line Naturals Lotions

Yes,  there two bottles of this coconut- based lotion and I’m glad they’re paraben-free. I will be doing my review on this soon

A Variety of Sheet Masks

Holika Holika’s Waterdrop Tinted Foundation in Honey Shade
I am glad to have gotten this because I was running out of foundation. I want to give this a try. 

W is Important Lip Tint

HopeGirl Magic Lash Long and Long Mascara

Pony Effect Deep and Pure Lip Tints in the Colorful and Blissful Shades 

Etude House Dear Darling Tint

Elizavecca Skin Liar Primer 

I hope you enjoyed reading this post. I feel lucky most of the products that I got are made from Korea. I hope you have a great day. Will be going out to meet some friends. Take care everyone!😍😍😍😍

Unboxing Part 1: My Beauty Haul this 2018 

First of all,  Happy New Year to you all. Hope you’re all having a fabulous day.

I can’t believe my eyes and ears. I won two giveaways from beauty bloggers Apple Caplis of It’s Apple’s World and Rowena Lei of Animetric’s World. What a way to start the year.

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The LBC box from Apple

The Zoom package from Rowena

First,  I will show you a glimpse of the beauty stuff I got from Apple:

Second, I will show you the goodies I got from Rowena’s previous giveaway.  I got Seoul White Korea skin care products as prizes:

Aside from these prizes,  I got my order of makeup brushes from Lazada. com. I was expecting them to arrive the earliest on Tuesday and the latest till Saturday because I chose standard shipping. But they arrived on Monday. Good job Lazada.
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So that’s it for now. Posting part 2 of this details of the products from Apple and Rowena’s giveaway. Happy New Year once again everyone!!

Sambong Leaves Tea for Menstrual Cramps

First of all, I would like to say that this is not a paid or sponsored post. I am doing this for personal reasons. I am in search of a remedy to ease my menstrual pain. For the last few months, I have noticed that my periods are getting painful. I am planning to see an OB- GYN next year to have myself checked. But I need to be well rested when I start to see one. I thought I will be relaxing this Christmas, but in reality I can’t. There’s just so much to do, and it’s so hectic that I need to just unwind after all this is through.

I know I should not be relying on Ibuprofen to ease the pain, but it can’t be helped. My menstrual pain feels like the left side of my pelvis being pricked with something sharp, then a dull and heaviness felt afterwards. Sometimes, I can feel my uterus contracting and it’s just so painful. I can’t sleep at night when this happens too. Aside from that, I am also craving for something sweet like cookies, and hot chocolate drink.

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I have been trying to look for alternatives aside from Ibuprofen to ease my menstrual cramps. The following remedies helped like: warm compress, and eating a healthy diet. My family is starting to eat more fish, and brown and black rice. We get fish delivered to our house because there’s this couple who sells fresh fish on a daily basis.

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My mother suggested that I take Sambong tea from ABS Herbs Company. I did further research on Sambong and I found from an article by Dr. Haider called “13 Health Benefits of Sambong.” and he mentioned that it’s  in” helping in PMS”. With that in mind, I said to myself, ” Why not give it a try?”

Generally, Sambong tea is recommended for those with kidney concerns. It also has antioxidant properties. However, please consult a doctor especially if you’re having any illness whatsoever.  I won’t suggest Sambong tea for pregnant and breastfeeding women. For further information about ABS Herbs Sambong Tea, feel free to visit the online store and  ABS Herbs official website. 

I am having my period now, the second day to be exact, and it’s at this point when I feel the cramping the most. Aside from the cramping, I am having a slight headache too. After following directions from the label of ABS Herbs Sambong Tea, I drank it. There’s no bad aftertaste or anything. But I did notice a decrease in pelvic cramping afterwards. The headache slightly decreased too. I did not experience any adverse reaction to the tea because it says from the website medicalhealthguide.com that it may bring about an unwanted effect to people allergic to ragweed and its counterparts. Since this tea has a diuretic effect, it reminds the users to take 8 to 10 glasses of water.  I think I will continue to use this even when I am not having my period. I want to take advantage of the fact that sambong leaves have the antioxidant effect.

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Source:

Photo of Sambong leaves from Pinterest

Sambong Blumea balsamifera Herbal Tea from medicalhealthguide.com

13 Health Benefits of Sambong by Dr. Paul Haider

Photo of ABS Herbs Sambong tea

 

My Christmas 2017

Hello there,  hope you’re having a great. So far, I am sharing events that kept me busy during the holidays. I hope you have enjoyed Christmas too. Maybe you can share a list of things that you did during Christmas.  I would love to hear you stories! 

1. I got Christmas chocolates as presents from family

2. I met an old friend at Market Market in Taguig.  It’s been a while since last saw Mel, a co-worker I met ehen I was working for a pharmaceutical company in Makati. 

3. Sang in a choir on Christmas eve with the Family Choir 

4.  Ate pre Christmas lunch at Wang Fu Restaurant with the family 

Things To Accept Now for a Better 2018

Hi there every one! Hope you are all having a Happy Christmas celebration regardless of your life circumstance. I was so busy with caroling duties and other tasks that I just feel tired afterwards. My schedule for blog posts is on Sundays, Tuesdays, and Thursdays but since it’s the holidays, my schedule just went ballistic that I’m having little sleep. So I  decided to temporarily postpone blogging. Anyway, everything will go back to regular programming tomorrow as I make another post for Tuesday. Keeping my fingers crossed for everyone!

What can we do to make 2018 a better year for us all? It’s a given that we can’t control the things that will happen to us in the future. However, I believe that no matter what happens,  we can focus on things that we have control over. Here are some things that we need to accept so that 2018 is  better for us all:

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  • You Have to Learn How to Receive

I have seen this when you give someone a gift and they say to, “You shouldn’t have bothered” , or in my native tongue of Tagalog, “Nag-abala ka pa“. Some people react negatively when they are being given something because they think they are being pitied upon.

Worse, some think that when you’re giving them something, it’s like a putdown for them and humiliating them. It’s like  you’re bragging and telling them in your face that , “It’s something you can’t afford that why I am giving you this. ”

I beg to differ in this case because when a person gives you something, included in that gift are their good intentions and happy thoughts for you. We should not say negative statements when we’re being given a gift like, “I don’t deserve this. ” Only two words are needed, and that is “Thank You.” I’ll be doing another blog post about this in the near future.

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  • Your Talents, Flaws, Warts and All Your Imperfections

We have to love everything about ourselves. The freckles that line our faces. That port wine stain that covers one side of your face. That beautiful brown skin you were born with. Your knack for playing the trombone. Anything.  I know it’s not easy especially when there are people who might not say good things about us. Yet, we should not be defeated and we must persist. People will always talk. Damn if you do, and damn if you don’t. We have to love ourselves: our perfections and imperfections.

Yet if there’s something you want to change about yourself, do it gradually or set realistic goals on how you can attain it.

  • That there will be people who will like us and there are those who won’t

We find ourselves wanting to be in agreement with every person we meet: at work, school, or at establishments. However, there will be times that there will be people whom you meet who are “tough nuts to crack”. They  will never be your friend no matter how hard you try even when you try to give them something.

Solution: Forgive that person or persons, and move on. Consider them as learning experiences so that you will know what to do next time. Instead, surround yourself with people who will love you unconditionally no matter what.

  • You Need to Get out of your Comfort Zone Once in a While

Yes, it always feels safe to be in familiar places, but you grow more as an individual when you face adversity. Yes, when you do things beyond your comfort zone. The choices are endless. For example, if you’re someone shy, try to ask help someone to help you gain self-confidence. I have social anxiety and sometimes I get scared when meeting new people. Yet recently, I have been attending events that allow me to network with other people like this Blogapalooza event for bloggers and vloggers that was held at the City of Dreams casino.

I recently watched this video of a boy who stutters, yet he was able to give a speech with the help of his English teacher. I would love to be a teacher who helps a student accomplish their goals.

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  • You have to Forgive No Matter What

People will always make mistakes so it’s important that we learn to forgive. It’s always easy to have that revenge mentality.  We want those people who have hurt us feel the same pain as we did.   I recently finished watching Criminal Minds Season 11 and 12 over at iflix.com. My favorite character is Dr. Spencer Reid. The common thread I see in most cases is revenge for those people who have hurt them. Unfortunately, the criminals in the TV series usually end up hurting people who are not at fault. Revenge imprisons us and keeps us in the dark. This is what unforgiveness does to a person. Unforgiveness hurts those who are not directly involved in our anger. Anger that consumes them, all that plotting and planning that it disrupts work, and life, and relationships with people. A healthy way to deal with anger at someone is to confront the person involved and talk about it.

I know that it’s not easy, but believe, I recently had a hurtful experience that shook me. I got sick afterwards after having that altercation with that toxic person.  This is the reason why I wrote my last blog post Project Kindness. I have forgiven this person who hurt me, and moved on with my life.

Some may have objections about this, but I believe in the power of forgiveness. People who forgive have the power because this frees you from bondage from the person who hurt. For those  who may have experienced a deeper hurt, I am hoping that you can find someone you trust to tell, a support person. I want you to be healed from that hurt.

  • You Don’t Shun Love Away

The love that we know of is romantic love, the kind that thrills and excites us when we see the person we want to be with for the rest of our lives like being in a roller coaster. But what happens when that romance is all gone? For example, when both of you become old and frail, teeth falling out, and having uncontrolled bladders, will you still love each other? What will you do when you realize that a family member suddenly becomes temperamental due to an illness, will you give up? I am talking about agape, a kind of love that is unconditional, a love that accepts, and forgives no matter what .

Another point I must make is for those who have experienced a heart-break in their lives.  For example getting dumped or rejected. I have had that experience where I told a guy that I liked him, but he’d rather be friends. Well I got hurt at first, but I am glad I am still friends with him despite that. Why? It’s because we were friends from the start.

Another situation I had is from this guy who I really like so much, and it turns out that he’s gay. I wish he had told me that because I would have accepted what he said. I may get hurt, but yeah at least he should have told me. But that didn’t happen because the only thing he said to me was that he needed space.  I am yet to have closure with this guy because I never got the chance to talk to him about it. Every time I  go to this place, I see him there but you know it in your heart that he likes someone else because if he did really like me, he’d push for it and go after me. But he didn’t. End of the story.

What’s the point of these examples I have given? Choose love no matter what. If you have not experienced love at all from those who should give you love, then look for someone to love like those lonely people in the Nursing home near you, or your pet whom you consider family. I love my little bunny Earl Grey who is going to be three next year. I will go crazy without him. I find myself talking to him sometimes about things that happened to me. I call him Bunnyssissimus Dorsi and Floofster. Funny but true.

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If there’s someone who may be hinting at you, and you like them too, please, don’t be afraid and give love a chance. You have to give fate a hand.  For those who are lucky enough to find the love of your life, don’t be afraid to show them actions that express that love. I remember one of my teachers in school say that, ” Love must be felt. It must show in everything that you do towards others.” Let’s make things simple.  After all, love is not a noun but a verb, as country singer Clint Black puts it in his song entitled Love is Something that We Do